I am so very NOT happy right now.
Last night, I was "required" to speak with the Dark Overlord AKA Baby Daddy. Any interaction with him leaves me a mix of disgusted, angry, and besieged. He is a person who can not just hold a civil conversation with me - but feels he must lecture me, scold me, or otherwise insert his opinions regarding my person, into the mix.
Of course, it began with his complaining that I have not called often enough - my (our) daughter is visiting me currently, and he wanted regular calls.
I don't call regularly because 1) the time difference 2) for the past one week (the one week he received no calls) there has been some sort of glitch with my LD calling code and I was not inspired to delve in to the problem 3) he will give me the same freakin grief no matter how often I call.
Then he tells me how he will "get revenge on Luna" for not calling, when she returns - by leaving her home alone one week-end afternoon while he and the family go to a party. Little does he know she hates those family/friend gatherings. In his community, every gathering is the same: loud salsa/cumbia/nortena music, lots of beer and orange soda, fathers getting drunk, and the bilingual tweens of Spanish speaking only parents spouting off.
It pisses me off that he phrases it as "get revenge on..."
Then he tells me I need to contact Luna's school. School started august 23rd, but Luna will return to school on August 30th. Rather than giving them the simple, no-frills explanation of "Luna is visiting her mother out of town and will start school late," he felt he needed to make up some story of "family beeznis." (Spelling meant to capture his accented English.)
Since he made up this story of family business, they want verification. From ME!
Then he goes on to tell me what a super parent he is because the kids go to school, come home to clean and do homework - and he does not need to do anything at home, because he has the kids trained. And they can't play outside or go to a friends because 1) they have chores to do 2) they don't need to do stupid stuff.
He makes some crap comment "so, Luna is just locked up in your apartment while you work isn't she." That ass....she is locked up in his house when not in school in Texas. No extra curriculars - "they don't need that," no fun extra classes cause hes too tired after work to take them.
Lead in to his telling me that he won't share cost of plane tickets for Luna to visit since I have a "good deal" of not paying child support. Hm....he has had her for 4.5 whole months. And no, I did not pay him child support. How about the 7 years, after we separated, that she was with me full-time and he paid no or little or less than required child support? How about him not calling, not visiting, not keeping his promises to her?
So, he is too tired to take her to a singling lesson - but when she lived with me, I was the sole parent, worked full-time, picked up side jobs to fund her activities, and dealt with picking up the sorrows of his broken words.
I took unmentionable jobs....jobs not fit for "gentle" consumption - to keep us/her in an apartment, with food and clothes, when he could not be bothered to pay his child support.
Esh, then he goes on his tangent about how I'm so "lucky and have the good deal" that she is staying with him now because I can do all my "nasty things" without her. and I can be "the looser" I am without her.
My nasty things? Bwa ha ha! He has said this crap since before we divorced. When we were married, he loved to throw it in my face that when I was younger, I *gasp* tried a variety of illegal substances! And he will not let it die...apparently I'm chomping at the bit to dive in to a mountain of cocaine!
Oh, and right at the tail end of us being married, I was flirting with / exchanging sexy letters with a male friend. Perhaps not my finest move.
My daughters father however, had not been "faithful" to me for any time frame greater than...oh...10 days. And he would always come home and tell me how he had this side girl or how some woman wanted him.
Then after said conversation, I get to hear Luna cry and tell me she hates living with him. He is too strict, too mean, never takes them places or lets them do things - she says. BUT she doesn't want to live in Tokyo. I'm supposed to leave my job and friends here, move back to the US, and then she will live with me.
His interesting end to hos conversation - he wants me to buy 6 shirts and send them back with Luna. He and his friends want "something Japan." He also wants the shirts to be silk and a polo style.
Do you want them "Japan" or do you want them freakin polo shirt style?