This post has nothing / little to do with Japan specifically...just a comment on men and how...uhm...how to say this politely...cluelessly rude they are?!
We all know that men (straight) men like to meet women. They watch them, they think about them, they fantasize about them, they approach them...
We also know that men, just like women, find a variety of things attractive. Some men like blonds. Some men like brunettes. Some like large breasts. Some like an athletic type body.
When a man tries the ol' pick-up lines, of which there are many - the lines often include some deviation of the girl being pretty, angelic, or the guy just tells her she is hot!
Now, rarely will you hear this:
"Hi, I wanted to get to know you because your height / weight proportionate body is very nice."
" Hey, can I buy you a drink - cause your nicely styled blond hair really turns me on. "
Instead the guy says:
"Hi, I wanted to get to know you because you seem nice and are pretty."
"Hey, can I buy you a drink - you look great tonight."
But, why do the men that find larger women appealing, think these lines work:
"Mmmm, baby. That big ol' thick body turns me on!"
" You know, I really dig fat girls."
Are these men serious? Are they clueless? Are they rude on purpose because they have some sort of big girl / humiliation fetish?
Do they think a larger girl does not want to hear "you are pretty" without the qualifier of "you are a big fat pretty girl."
Look men! If you like a girl - and some part of her appeals to your secret "turn on factor" such as: the blonde hair, the full hips, the tiny breasts, the big nose, the missing limb, whatever the fuck turns you on - the "I think you are pretty / I find you attractive" line works A LOT better without the additional qualifiers!
ps: the next time some one gives me some stupid backhanded compliment / pick up line - I might respond with "Wow! Really, cause I love a man with a short dick! I can't get enough tiny penis! And your super tiny rod is doing it for me right now!"